Enjoying your life as a single woman is fantastic! And by the way, necessary for the universe to connect you to a healthy love match. But what happens when you decide you’re ready to share your world with someone, but have never mastered the love game or are fearful of it? Below are four reasons 95% of modern women desiring to be in a relationship are single.
You don’t make time
You are the professional rainmaker. Your execution and drive are exceptional. But we are all wired for human touch, companionship and warmth. And who knows, one Sunday morning sipping your cappuccino on the deck of your second home in Miami Beach, you’ll think…. WOW, I truly am a badass! And you 100% are! But you’ll also be aware an important piece of your life’s puzzle is missing. As we get older companionship becomes more important.
Consider creating a few hours weekly to get out and experience new activities. There are so many cool things to learn. There are co-ed dance classes, boxing classes, golf, reading groups, you name it. Imagine saying yes to attending a friends cooking class (you hate cooking) and low and behold your rolling dumpling with your future husband?
Making, stealing, whatever you have to do to add work-free moments-in group settings- will facilitate accepting dates you’ve been forced to turn down in the past. And, you’ll feel great about it!
Singledom Feels Fine
I am not saying being single should not feel fine. I’m just throwing out the possibility that you’ve convinced yourself that you’re happier that way. The only way to get a different outcome is to create a new desired feeling more powerful than the one keeping us where we are. When you have the freedom to come home from work, cook dinner for one, and watch anything on TV without compromise, it’s easy to want things to stay this way. Even if only on a subconscious level. You haven’t worried about factoring in someone else’s wants and needs into your bigger picture in a long time. The truth is, you sort of enjoy being able to focus fully on your amazing self. Here are some questions you can ask yourself for the discomfort of singledom to be just a bit stronger than the comfort of it. Many times that’s all you need to realize you can be both single and in a relationship and feel great.
1. In 10 years from now, how would having a long-term relationship increase your happiness?
2. What are 3 ways you could have both freedom and companionship in a fulfilling marriage?
3. What old false beliefs may be attributed to you not wanting to pursue coupledom?
A partnership requires a loss of freedom.
A partnership requires choosing I give up my successful career.
A partnership with both chemistry and true emotional safety does not exist.