How to be More Open Minded


On a scale of 1 through 10, how would you rate your open-mindedness? Are you usually accepting of people’s beliefs? Do you typically give a confused poodle look when others’ opinions contradict your own? Do you rarely say yes to invitations to new activities because your mind tells you there is no way you would have fun or relate to the people? Have I completely lost you with this interrogation? I have been there quite a few times. The pushback to being open is the fear of the unknown and the tendency to keep the same thought patterns most of our lives.

If you are ready to step up your open-mindedness game, I’m sure you will find at least one way that inspires you from the list below.

Be Social and friendly. You’ll discover being social will create the possibility for new experiences. Go to that belly dancing class your friend invited you to. Say yes to the girls’ road trip to Lake George, especially if a person you’ve never met is attending. The chemistry in your brain changes with new environments and new people. New scenery, new thoughts, and new people will allow you to try on a different personality. If you usually show your intellectual side, try a bubblier side. Be the carefree version of yourself! Walk over to someone of a certain age if you typically feel more at ease with those of the same generation. There is so much to discover from those much older as well as those much younger.

Contemplate a different opinion-Allow the other person to give their supporting arguments for their point-of-view. Listen with interest. Don’t focus on what your response will be. Could you be willing to try their opinion on for size? Could there be legitimacy to their perspective? How could acknowledging this perspective widen your social circle? Perhaps you hear an insight that you agree with but never crossed your mind. Creating an opening for a different view will make you a more conscious individual.

Remember our interconnectedness– Dr. Kristin Neff the self-compassion rock star/ expert once said, “When we’re in touch with our common humanity, we remember that feelings of inadequacy and disappointment are universal.” The false belief we are separate from one another, and nature is the primary cause of sadness. Every single person you meet is going through pain in one way or another. Pay attention to your word choices, they will affect people you don’t even know. Remembering this will increase your self-compassion which will increase your tolerance and flexibility. You will co-exist more peacefully and be a higher-value human being for it.
 Be Curious– What exactly does this mean? It’s a state of mind like dropping intellect, drive, and desire for knowledge into a drink. Then shaking it up like a mixologist for a more sophisticated emotion. Curiosity can not only boost one’s skills but can be the conduit for social bonds. This occurs by encouraging engagement with others’ smorgasbord of perspectives. It’s like a magnet for relationship building. As humans, we are more attracted to people interested in us than those interested in themselves. One study suggested that curious people have a greater ability to accurately read social cues. This capability has some amazing outcomes. It enhances our overall well-being as well as resilience to rejection.

Stay Calm– Being in a relaxed state increases the likelihood of starting any conversation in a softer tone. Your tone is a big predictor of how an exchange turns out. According to the Gottman Method, the way we start a conversation is the way we end it. Think of going on a blind date after a big business deal fell through and your three-month diet resulted in zero weight loss.  Now tell me how open this will make you during the date. Now think about having a productive day an easy day. In which of these two scenarios do you predict being open to listening and learning about the person in front of you? Correct 🙂

Being rigid emotionally and mentally takes away many life-changing opportunities. Be it making new friends, participating in new cultures and cuisines, and even reducing your sensitivity to rejection.

Sending light,


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5 Kick Butt Benefits of Connecting to Nature


Hello Gorgeous!

A blooming body of research places evidence of the psychological, physiological, and emotional benefits of immersing ourselves in our natural world.

I think that I cannot preserve my health and spirits, unless I spend four hours a day at least—and it is commonly more than that—sauntering through the woods and over the hills and fields, absolutely free from all worldly engagements. – Henry David Thoreau

As someone who is close friends with depression and anxiety, (dont be jealous)I can say that there is absolutely no greater natural mood booster than hanging out in nature! For me, it looks like long walks or hikes. Sometimes I take my book outside and just allow myself to be. I also love watching my cats enjoying the sun.

I have always found this fascinating, this “I can conquer the world feeling” after a walk. Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods has said that of the almost 1000 studies on this topic “point in one direction: Nature is not only nice to have, but its a have-to-have for physical and cognitive function.”

Nature in and of itself according to Positive Psychology generates a feeling of awe. When we are in awe (an emotion characterized by astonishment) we are existing in the present moment. Think back to the last time you thought WOW this is magnificent! Do you think you could be both marveled and anxious at the exact same time? No. This is also known as flow and is one of the happiest states we can ever be in. It means we are so focused on an activity that we are not thinking about the past nor stressing about the future. We are being exactly where the universe wants us to be. Here!

A research article on, found nature to reduce rumination (the act of thinking and thinking and more thinking) which is highly linked to depression. In the same article, they share how experiencing nature also decreases the activation in the area of the brain responsible for mental illness.

Nature soothes our nervous system. The bird’s sweet songs, the ruffling of leaves, the warm sun or snow-capped mountains are all nature’s medicinal soal soothers. This has been proven by EEG tests. Our heart rate slows, our digestion functions optimally and our breathing slows down. We feel safer and it’s a break, especially for those living in cities, which is over 50% of the overall population. We all need to slow down and take a well-deserved break but those in urban areas have higher stress levels. When the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in, it reduces cortisol levels that are heightened in the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn modes. In addition, our blood flow rises to the amygdala which manages our stress levels.


Nature Improves Human Relationships- When we are in a good mood we are automatically less aggressive and judgemental and more collaborative and compassionate. A positive frame of mind generates tranquility and for some even confidence. It makes me more confident for sure. Walking alongside your significant other releases endorphins that promote better sexual intimacy too. We are more apt to be vulnerable in conversation when we are walking side by side versus across from each other. This builds deeper bonds. All of these strengthen all of our relationships!

Nature Keeps us Healthy- Those who spent two hours a week in touch with mother nature (even spread out through various days) experienced a clear positive effect on their health. This study was led by Mathew White of the European Center for Environment and Human Health at the University of Exeter. It also lowers our blood pressure which intern improves heart disease. THIS IS THE LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH FOR WOMEN IN THE US.

Our relationship with nature is vital. Get out there!

Look around you, be intentional about seeing your surroundings, and acknowledge tiny details. Maybe a ladybug is relaxing dog’s nose, or a ray of sun flickering on the surface of a pond? Listen attentively. Can you hear the thunder on your way down the trail? What does the shape of the cloud remind you of? Which of these flowers can you associate with playing as a kid? Last night my son and me noticed a wonderful smokey scent in the air that reminded us that we are in Autumn, our favorite season. Such a small gift from mother nature, yet it put a smile on both of our faces.

Here’s to making it a point to become one with nature way more often!

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