Are You Afraid of Letting Go?

Hello Rockstar,

I am so excited to be writing you its feels like it’s been forever! There have been so many pivots in my world recently I’ve almost developed thigh muscle definition- almost, and I couldn’t be happier to be here with you right now.

In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself. Deepak Chopra

Letting go of almost anything even if it’s something we’ve been desperately trying to release is hard. There is a certain comfort in our discomfort. Have you ever had a powerful urge to floss your cat’s teeth? No? What about one to scrub your refrigerator draws? Well, that’s exactly how my inconvenient resistance to letting go rears its ugly head. Just like that, I’m about to complete a lengthy project and scrubbing bubbles hijacks every molecule of my brain.


Fortunately, today I realize, that the source of my fear of success originated from the meaning I gave my slightly strained childhood experiences. Describing this untruth-I protectively kept snug in the pack pocket of my faded 501’s- as the biggest roadblock to my professional growth, is an understatement. In my head, the freedom acquired from monetary wealth equaled emotionally unstable little ones. That had to be the truth since it was my experience. Visualizing my kids as poster children for a Gerry Springer episode left me terrified, so my business excelled at the speed of a baby turtle. My witty mom in a failed attempt to compliment me for always achieving my goal (in the end)nicknamed me, little turtle.



The fed-upness of failing to reach my potential challenged me to make a real attempt at releasing my beat-up old baggage. Encyclopedia Britannica’s definition of old baggage aka belief is: a mental attitude of acceptance without the full intellectual knowledge required to guarantee its truth.



Common Old Baggage:


  • I’m not worthy of…
  • I’m only worthy when…
  • I won’t be loved as my true self
  • I can never have what I actually want


My business goal was transforming the quality of people’s lives by teaching them the foundational skills of intimate human connections. Science has proven there is nothing that has a greater impact on our overall happiness. I finally understood that inherent to my professional success was releasing my association of career advancement with a collapsed home life. This led me to get reacquainted-yet again- with the most important relationship I’ll ever have, the one with myself.


Shortly after identifying the kingpin of what was holding me back, I made a commitment to prioritizing the quality of my emotional well-being. When I’m fully conscious of who I am and attuned to my self-worth; I am open to an unwavering source of power. This is available to all of us!


In 2020, I hired a business coach, began group therapy, and like a sign from the universe; beautiful human connections and opportunities started presenting themselves to me. Collaborations with businesses in fields I didn’t know much about knocked at my door. Meaningful friendships we created and bloomed despite not being able to physically be near one another. Tami Holzman the Queen Connecter thank you for being such an integral piece of my growth and holding my hand through so many new-isms.


If there’s anything certain in this human chop salad we call life, it’s change. If we have a longing for something that never goes away, listen to it! That is a power greater than yourself guiding you towards what you always knew was meant for you.


Let go of the old and follow your heart to the place where anything is possible!


Rumi once said “what you seek is seeking you.”


There is an inextricable bond between gaining something extraordinary and releasing old versions of ourselves. It’s simply part of the process to the crazy amazing new chapter of our life.


My question to you is…




Biggest Hugs,


Irene Abbou

Irene is the creator of the Happiness Within Reach program which coaches driven men and women to open their hearts to self-love while forming deep and meaningful interpersonal relationships with others. She is an ICF, ACC Certified life and business coach who holds two certifications from the University of Pennsylvania on Positive Psychology and is trained in the Gottman Method for Couples Therapy. She is also an Amazon best-selling co-author of the book How To Be Crazy Amazing During Difficult Times.