I hope this long weekend was velvety soft or highly energetic!
Whichever you needed most
Your continued support reading, and messaging me on Instagram are priceless! Thank you.
I’ve been thinking a lot about healing and identifying and celebrating growth vis-a-vis trauma. The word trauma is splashed on every social media outlet, and thats fantastic. Thanks to many therapists and coaches like Mastin Kipp, most of us have an idea of what trauma is. But (I recently learned its ok to start a sentence with But ) if you’re reading this, I know you can benefit from distinguishing your healing progress as well.
Healing: Irene’s definition: managing your childhood wounds so they do not negatively interfere with your everyday life. Taking the driver’s seat. Like Thelma & Louise style before the cliff scene
APA definition: the process of alleviating or attempting to alleviate mental or physical illness.
Small “t” Trauma: an emotional reaction -usually overlooked- to a distressing experience or a series of events. Ex: divorce, relational conflicts, legal issues, money worries, infidelity.
Big “T” Trauma: an emotional response to an impactful event such as rape, natural disasters, war that effect one’s life in a negative way. If not treated this can turn into bigger challenges such as addictions.
As my mom once said, there is no quick fix, Irene. So, hang in there and keep making room for feelings.
Here are some telltale signs you’re successfully turning trauma into glitter dust.
You Fire The Liar– Instead of accepting the lies your mind is dishing out as the truth, you question them. Youve kicked the lying jackass to the ground. You no longer numb out. Examples Below:
· You talk back to your inner critic out loud or in your head
· You know that all feelings are transient. You hang out with them for a bit, then let them pass. Even if you succeed occasionally.
· You instinctively use learned techniques to come back to the present moment
· You reflect on why this particular liar keeps coming up and try finding a suppressed feeling beneath it (anger could really be suppressed helplessness, sadness etc.)
You Stop Isolating
· Hibernating in bed, with oily hair alone is no longer your go to resolution
· You answer your phone when a friend calls and don’t pretend you’re fine.
· You reach out to your elevator people (the ones that shoot you up the energy ladder)
· You open parts of your life with friends and family for the first time
· You stop equating asking for help with weakness and practice interdependence
You Neutralize Old Triggers
· You can listen to songs, visit places and have conversations that previously made your heart sink without crumbling.
You Begin to Trust Yourself More
· You stop needing others validation or opinions to make forward movement
· You tell your truth despite the risk of losing something or someone.
· You follow through on your commitments
· You stop being over-critical of yourself
· You stop trying to control every minor detail
So sure, lets continue hiking, being creative, practicing CPT and EMDR, but lets ALSO CELEBRATE how far we’ve come!
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PS- I am excited to share that I have begun work on my newest course THE MARGOT METHOD. It concentrates on unapologetically guiding you to self-worth and healthy love.